It all started a year ago. I was at SCORRE Conference in Colorado with a friend. We were having a wonderful time and I hesitated to ask if she would join me for Women of Faith that weekend when we returned home to Minnesota. I wanted to attend and didn’t want to go alone. It turned out to be life-giving for both of us. The first thing she said afterward was: “We’re definitely coming next year!”
A few months went by and I decided to be a Group Leader for the 2015 Women of Faith Loved Tour in Saint Paul, Minnesota; which meant I chose to sell 25 tickets. I’m not a natural organizer. I hate checklists and I have difficulty keeping track of who did what when it comes to collecting payment for anything. I bit my nails and lost sleep about lodging, food and transportation. What I do know is that it’s in my nature to invest in people and pour hope into their life. That is what I do best, so I disciplined myself to organize the weekend in order to share a life-giving experience with dear friends.
It turned out to be a great success. The speakers were inspiring, the music and worship were uplifting, the company was exceptional and 23 of us got to share a special time together. One of the highlights of the weekend was having my husband and children drive 40 miles to provide a meal for us. Not just ANY meal. An AMAZING meal. Hot soup, salads, sandwiches, gluten-free bread and chips, donuts, cookies, cold drinks…
I was surrounded by the love of my friends, the love of my family and the love of God, all in one big package.
Among the many aspects on which I reflected after the weekend, I found three powerful reasons why I love my girlfriends:
- Connection: These people get me. We share inside jokes. They don’t care that my kid is five years old and I haven’t lost the baby weight. They don’t run away when they walk into my kitchen that has not been mopped in ages. They have cried with me and laughed with me. They’ve seen me in my pajamas and have changed my kids’ diapers. They drop unexpected thank you notes in the mail and remember my birthday without looking it up on Facebook.
- Support: I got texts and Facebook messages when I was waiting to hear back from the doctor after that scary biopsy. I could share with them how scared I was. I can tell them about the latest fight I had with mom. They let me know I am beautiful and loved. They hold me tight and offer chocolate when I’ve morphed into the Wicked Witch of the West during that time of the month (which in middle-age women can last a few years).
- Truth: They know my many flaws. They listen attentively as I rant about my frustration with my lack of housekeeping skills, my struggle to lose weight or my mommy guilt episodes. They still speak truth. “You are doing a good job” “Nobody has it all together” “Me too”.In a world of “mommy wars” they allow me space to be myself without questioning or criticizing my choice to be a working mom.
Girlfriends are a treasured gift. We have granted each other permission to see behind the curtain and share what happens behind closed doors. There is no comparison or competition. There is no tearing down of each other. Just life-giving companionship and unconditional respect.
I am thankful for the gift of friendship and I encourage you to nurture and treasure your people.
How do you nurture friendships? What do you love about your friends?
Have you experienced some of these situations?
- You want to find purpose and passion in your career and in your life
- You want to feel your job has an impact and makes a difference
- You want to find the right person with whom to share your life
- You want an outstanding marriage and are wondering how to get there
- You want to pass on to your children the values that matter most to you
- You feel discouraged and worried that you are not making a difference where you are and life is passing you by
You can find the answer to these and other crucial questions during the LifePlan Process.
LifePlan is a two-day process of personal discovery. As a LifePlan facilitator I help you gain perspective on your life, create, execute and maintain your LifePlan.
This process is guided by YOUR objectives, life experiences and relationships. We explore the five life domains: Personal, Family, Vocation/Career, Church and Community to find clues about your unique wiring and how to improve every area of your life to live the life God meant for you.